When I was a kid I was always insecure about how to please a woman. And I always wished I had some sort of insight on how to do it. After a lot of research and practice I figured it out. So if you're interested, consider this as a great starting point with women.
The key idea is that there are 7 erognous zones and that the g-spot and clitoris are very important. Imagine that!
I hope this helps you.
The G-Spot & How to Help a Woman have an Orgasm
Posted by inspiron on November 27, 2007 at 10:35 PM PST #
Posted by Danny on November 28, 2007 at 02:47 PM PST #
Posted by Cristian on November 28, 2007 at 07:27 PM PST #
i try alot of ways (and i really mean ALOT)to make her orgasm,but she just told me "normal feeling" and thats all!does the problems lies with me or her? and yet,i still cant find the g spot...thanks man...
Posted by ethan on November 30, 2007 at 08:18 AM PST #
Posted by dave on December 02, 2007 at 07:20 PM PST #
How aroused is she? The signs of female arousal are a flushed face, hardened nipples (but not necessarily a sign of arousal), swollen labias (vagina lips), and a wetness in her vagina. Do you see any of these signs? Only when she is aroused does the g-spot become detectable.
And Ethan, erase the idea that you can make her orgasm. You can only help her to orgasm. It is really up to her to let herself orgasm.
Posted by Cristian on December 02, 2007 at 08:57 PM PST #
Posted by Cristian on December 02, 2007 at 08:57 PM PST #
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I would really appreciate it.
Thanks guys.
Posted by Cristian on December 02, 2007 at 09:03 PM PST #
When you say, a big orgasm, please elaborate on that, does the women ejaculate because of a gspot orgasm as i've been told and seen...or is there more wetness involved...(like the wetnesss u see when u rub her clitt??) i've also been told some girls have that rough pouch (gspot) inside the women's vagina and some don't...do all women have it or do most of them do..
Plus i find it more interesting, to achieve a gspot orgasm if i am pentrating her..i'm sure there's certain positions or angles that stimulate that area...what have your experiences been, one guy told me, that he inserts his penis in a way that touches her gspot..and holds her really close so that the skin, (i think he meant where the pubic hair is supposed to be at) rubs against the clitors at the same time...but this is all after he has forplayed with her etc..
what do you say to all that based on what you know and sorry for the long questions!! lol, ur the best!!!
Posted by Ali on December 03, 2007 at 10:06 AM PST #
Not all women can ejaculate during orgasm. They might have the biology for it, but there is a lot more to sex and orgasms than just having the right parts and plumbing.
The most common signs of an orgasm are the same as guys ie. curling of the toes, irregular breathing. But the larger orgasms might come with ways of dealing with the intense sensation, like rocking left and right, biting of the lip, grasping for something to hold onto etc.
It is my belief that the vast majority of women have g-spots, but just like the clitoris or penis, some are more pronounced than others. All humans of the same sex are pretty similiar from a biological perspective.
A lot of women have the same favorite position; "doggie style". That is when the woman is on all 4's and the guy is kneeling behind her. This position would allow the most amount of contact between the shaft of the penis and the g-spot. And sex in this postion as well as clitiral stimulation increases the likelihood of orgasm.
But let me again point out that each woman is as unique as each guy. Not everyone likes the same thing. I know women that enjoys it when a guy inserts a finger into their anus just before orgasm. And I know some women that would be repulsed by it.
Ultimately, my advice is a starting point. These are tips and moves that you can use the first time you have sex with someone, before you begin to explore what she likes... and the less experienced she is, the more exploration it will take because she doesn't know.
Also, keep in mind that for women more than men (especially younger women), sex is about feeling comfortable, and trusting the person enough to relax so that she can have an orgasm. And that relaxation develops before you even step into the bedroom and involves making her feel loved and safe (however she defines it).
So if you make her feel loved and safe, and you use these techinques she will most likely orgasm big and often. And once she does once, it becomes super easy to help her to orgasm from that time on.
Posted by Cristian on December 07, 2007 at 12:03 PM PST #
Posted by Autumn on December 17, 2007 at 01:03 PM PST #
I like the way you explained it.
Thank you
Posted by Alex on February 02, 2008 at 09:59 PM PST #
Posted by Joe Schmoe on March 09, 2008 at 10:48 AM PDT #
cause i cant download them.
and thanks for the tips.
Posted by hot_guy on April 11, 2008 at 04:19 PM PDT #
Posted by Jeff A. on April 12, 2008 at 08:27 PM PDT #
I can't email the videos, but you can always watch it whenevery you want at this site. :-)
Cristian
Posted by Cristian on April 13, 2008 at 08:39 PM PDT #
Thanks for the positive words. They mean a lot to me. :-)
Cristian.
Posted by Cristian on April 13, 2008 at 08:41 PM PDT #
I agree with you. Combining Clitoris and G spot stimulation causing a very powerful orgasm in woman.
You have nicely explained the proceudre.
I appreciate your contribution over this issue.
Pls keep on issuing info like this and share the knwledge
Thanks.
MAK
Jeddah
Posted by mak on April 25, 2008 at 03:34 PM PDT #
Posted by MJ on May 08, 2008 at 09:08 PM PDT #
I wanted to know if you heard this one... In addition to the g-spot on the 'roof' of the vaginia there is a slight bump on the 'floor' that brings arousal as well. I had a friend tell me I should do both at the same time in order to help her orgasm. I wanted to know your thoughts on this and if you came across this and your research.
Posted by Nick on June 01, 2008 at 07:24 PM PDT #
I have not heard of the front and back wall stimulations. Has anyone one else heard about this?
Criistian
Posted by Cristian on June 01, 2008 at 07:44 PM PDT #
I just wanted to tell you that it worked. I really can't thank you enough. I feel like it's plagarising, I just stole and artists work, hardwork at that. She really couldn't handle the teasing. I wonder, how long did it take you to know all that!? Was it just from dialogue with the woman or was it with trial and error?
Like I said, I can't thank you enough. I look forward to more blogs, you're an excellent speaker.
Take care now
-Nick
Posted by Nick on June 10, 2008 at 07:40 PM PDT #
Thanks alot, Jason White
Posted by Jason White on June 29, 2008 at 12:56 AM PDT #
It actually took me years of offline and online research into the female body to come up with the info that I do in the blog. I had a few insecurities so to compensate I figured that I would get as much info as I could about what women found pleasurable.
But once I had the information it was just a matter of improvisation. The technique I described was just what I did one night because I wanted the night to be about her… and partially because I wanted her to think of me as an incredible lover. :-)
I'm glad it really worked for you. Please, tell others about the blog. I'm sure they would appreciate it if you do. :-)
Cristian
Posted by Cristian on June 29, 2008 at 08:09 AM PDT #
You're welcome! I'm glad it worked for you.
Cristian
Posted by Cristian on June 29, 2008 at 08:11 AM PDT #
How do I encourage different positions? I know that she would enjoy several other positions other than missionary, but when it comes down to it. Shes just doesnt want to put herself out there. I do believe she trusts me. I mean, we've been together for almost 2yrs now.
Any advice or encouragement would be much appreciated, you seem to know what your talking about.
Thx, Eric
Posted by Eric on July 06, 2008 at 08:08 AM PDT #
I'm sorry for the delay in responding. I thought that I had answered your question already.
The best way to encourage your girlfriend to try different positions is to talk about it during a time when you are not about to have sex. Present it in a way that doesn't seem like you're criticizing her and a way that sounds fun. You might even want to tell her why should like the other positions.
For example 'Doggie Style' allows your penis more contact with her g-spot. Her on top would give her more control over what's happening and a lot of women really like that position so she might as well.
I hope this helps.
Cristian
Posted by Cristian on August 16, 2008 at 08:11 AM PDT #
is breaking her hymen what causes her to bleed the first time she has sex??
ok but doesnt it hurt for a girl to have sex for the first time? n can you describe how tight a girls vagina is when she is a virgin??
oh yea i already saw it and all those techniques will come in handy to help a girl orgasm...but why is it so hard for a girl to orgasm for the first time and then it comes easy for her to orgasm after that??
-Ruben
Posted by Ruben on August 25, 2008 at 11:09 AM PDT #
Yes, that is what causes her to bleed the first time that she has sex. Hymens a lot of the time break before she has sex for the first time. If it breaks due to horse back riding or gymnastics or whatever, then there is less of a chance of pain for a girl when she is having sex for the first time.
I don't know how to answer the question you asked about how tight is a virgin's vagina. It is as tight as a non-virgin's vagina.
Not all girls have a hard time orgasming the first time.
But usually when a girl does have a hard time, it is because an orgasm involves feeling relaxed and for some girls sex is not a very relaxing thing.
It is easier the second time she orgasms for the same reason that anyone finds it easier to do something the second time they try, because they have learned how. They have a better idea of what they have to do to allow their bodies to orgasm again. I'm sure in the beginning you didn't know how to masturbate, but I'll guess that you're now an expert. It is the same thing with a woman and orgasming; experience makes things easier.
Cristian
Posted by Cristian on August 26, 2008 at 02:18 AM PDT #
ok thnx so much 4 da info....lmfao an expert, for some reason datsz pretty funny to me..well thnx again
sorry if i ask so many questions but does anal sex hurt women??
-Ruben
Posted by Ruben on August 26, 2008 at 05:59 PM PDT #
the thing that you said about a girl not orgasming the first time due to not being relaxed, is that something that guys can go through also???
-Ruben
Posted by Ruben on August 27, 2008 at 01:21 PM PDT #
Anal sex would hurt a woman as much as it would hurt you. There aren't more or less nerve endings in a guys anus compared to a woman.
And when guys get nervous it is more likely to result in the guy not being able to get an erection, or orgasming too quickly.
Cristian.
Posted by Cristian on August 29, 2008 at 09:29 AM PDT #
Posted by willi on September 02, 2008 at 08:38 AM PDT #
If you don't want to use your tongue, you can use your fingers applying different pressure at different times.
I hope this helps,
Cristian
Posted by Cristian on September 03, 2008 at 05:22 PM PDT #
i got another question....is this normal..???
yesterday i finally got there with my girlfriend of 3 months and when we were having sex after 5 minutes she squirted a wierd fluid it kind of looked like if she was spraying a hose..and i was like wat the hell cuz that hadent happened before with my ex
Posted by willi on September 04, 2008 at 10:09 AM PDT #
Yes, that is very normal. Women can ejaculate (or cum) just like men do. It seems that you helped her to cum. Feel good about it because you did something very right! :-)
Women have different types of orgasms and this type of orgasm can happen when her g-spot is stimulated. I'm sure that all women are physically capable of doing it, but not all women can relax enough or are stimulated in the correct way to encourage it to happen.
I hope this helps.
Cristian
Posted by Cristian on September 04, 2008 at 10:50 AM PDT #
Posted by willi on September 05, 2008 at 07:29 PM PDT #
Posted by Khaleem on September 15, 2008 at 03:33 PM PDT #
now i am going with my girl friend next week and i think it is going to happen so i wanted to ask you 2 Q. 1 what is the time that women take to have orgasm and lets say i was good???
2.what does she wants me to do when we finish doing it
and can you tell me when to stop and know that she really had it from? so i can have her again
chaw man!
Posted by jhon on September 16, 2008 at 08:43 PM PDT #
Posted by jhon on September 16, 2008 at 08:44 PM PDT #
The average woman takes between 10 and 20 minutes to have an orgasm. 12 minutes is about the average.
After sex, a lot of women like to be held. And there is no formula to say how much each woman wants to be held. Just hold her until you don't feel like doing it any more.
In general, there is no real formula to sex. It's like an art. You have to pay attention to your partner and respond to her and what she likes. Every woman is different just like you are different from all of your friends.
I hope this helps.
Cristian
Posted by Cristian on September 16, 2008 at 10:03 PM PDT #
Thanks for the info! I can make my woman orgasm but would really like to find her g-spot. I've looked at several diagrams that I found through google, but they all seem to have different info. So, the question is: is the gspot located at the bottom/middle/top or above the pubic bone? And how much pressure do I need to apply? The sort of pressure that would squash a sausage or the sort of pressure that would dent an unopened can of coke?
Thanks Chris!
Posted by Timothy on September 24, 2008 at 12:42 AM PDT #
Simply put, if your girl were to lay on her stomach on the bed, it would be on the inside of her vagina on the part that is closest to the bed. It feels like a pea and is anywhere between a half inch to 3 inches inside of her vagina.
The g-spot only appears after she is fully aroused and is very sensitive so you only have to rub it as hard as you would rub a piece of cloth when you are trying to figure out how soft it is. And with some women even that is too hard. Some women can't take direct contact with their g-spot at all.
Also, keep in mind that after your girl becomes aroused and you have inserted your finger, you can ask her how it feels. She should react when you get close. That will tell you where the g-spot is on her.
I hope this helps,
Cristian
Posted by Cristian on September 24, 2008 at 02:33 AM PDT #
Posted by Gabby on September 25, 2008 at 10:59 AM PDT #
(this is vital)
Secondly you must help her become aroused, as shown in Christian's video above.
Thirdly, you must lubricate her, using the same massage oil, or lubricant or substitute. Now place lets say your left hand on the bottom of her stomach/pubic bone area. This is key to supporting her during orgasm, however do not try to stop her from moving around. Just apply a bit of pressure and hold. With your other hand, gently start to rub her clitoris, gradually increasing in speed. Once you are at a speed she is comfortable with, and you can sustain, keep going. She will start to react - curling of toes, grabbing onto you, bed covers or whatever and potentially raising herself up. (You left hand keeps her steady here.)
Continue to rub her clitoris at the same speed. Eventually she will start to orgasm, do not stop. Although her clitoris will become extremely sensitive, keep going, and you will find that with SOME women, they may squirt. All other signs of her orgasming will become present, if not already. her body may move uncontrollably, she may not be in control of it herself. This is where your left hand is key to helping her keep relatively stable
Please note this does not work for all women.
Also note that the more times this whole routine is practiced, the easier it becomes for the women involved to orgasm and squirt.
I have heard rumors that only women with two 'dents' in their lower back can squirt, however i do not know whether this is true or not.
Posted by john on September 29, 2008 at 05:01 AM PDT #
Posted by john on September 29, 2008 at 05:12 AM PDT #
Good advice!
If you want to share your video, you can write a RateABull blog and post it there.
First, post your video on Youtube, Veoh or other video hosting sites (you can earn money using Revver). Then use the 'Write a Blog' link on your RateABull home page. When you create it, be sure to check the 'Feature This Blog' checkbox. If you do, I will feature your blog on RateABull's sign in page.
I can tell you from experience that many people will be very grateful to for posting it.
Cristian
Posted by Cristian on October 02, 2008 at 11:50 AM PDT #
I loved this video and thing it should be required viewing for alot of men lol I want to date you! Ok, I just want to have sex with you ;)
I didn't read all of the posts but the ones I have seen don't address an issue. I think its important to get the word out, in regards to anal play, that a man should know to NOT go from the anus to the vagina with any instrument. Finger, penis, dildo.... you get the idea. It transfers bacteria and causes very serious infections.
A lot of men may not know this and may unintentionally cause an infection.
Talk about leaving an impression haha
Thanks for the video, it rocks and I am going to share the link with many, many friends!
Ciao,
K
Posted by Karen on October 14, 2008 at 06:59 PM PDT #
I love your post. :-) Thanks for passing along the useful info.
Cristian
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